Sibling Needs

Since we’ve been official there are three things I know for a fact:

  1. There is an amazing foster parent support group in the greater Vancouver area.
  2. The wait after the home study sucks just as much as the home study wait.
  3. There is a great need for homes for sibling groups.

Continue reading “Sibling Needs”


The Questions To Ask

Since we are still swinging on the pendulum waiting for our first call I figure I do some research on when we get the first placement call. I don’t know if others really have a list of questions. Call me an over thinker. I mean, there isn’t much I can do but ruminate on what will happen on our first call.

Here is the list of things I thought about asking during the call and after I say yes and meet up with the child’s SW.

On the Call:

Basic Information:
What’s his name? (For the sake of saying “the child” or “his/her” I’m just saying his.)
How old is he?
What kind of personality does he have?
Does he love or hate anything in particular?
Does he have any allergies or special needs? If so, is their medication or services provided from DSHS?
Is there a religious preference? Are there any special needs we should consider because of his religion?

Background Information:
Is there a file available?
Why is he in foster care? Living situation?
How long has he been in foster care? If not first, how many moves has he had?
Any siblings? If so, where are they? Why aren’t they together? Is placing them together a priority in the future?

Is this short-term or long-term?
Has other family members been reached?

Our first meet up:

Basic Information About Child:
When is his birthday?
Is he up to date on his shots? If not, has an appointment been set?
Who is his pediatrician? Are we required to keep that pediatrician?

What is the visitation schedule?
If there is a visitation schedule, who from his bio family attends?
Where are the visits held?
Will I be transporting the child for visitation, or will a case worker?
If the child has siblings placed elsewhere, do they have visitation with their siblings?

During The Day:
Is he in daycare? If so, what daycare?
Are there any special services he is receiving in day care?
Will it be okay to take him out of daycare and transfer him to our daycare?

How is his parent’s and their case plan? Has one been set up?

I created this entire list because I wanted to be ready. Then I met these two great gals on one of my foster support groups and realized for my age group I may have an over abundance of questions. I guess it’s better safe than sorry though, right? I’ll be ready for sure come August when we open up our license to include a wider age group. Do y’all have any other questions that you’ve asked?

Our personal update: Little ones in our age group will come but I’ve been told there is a great need for a wider age group. My heart is honestly heavy about that. I wish we lived in a bigger home because there is nothing more I want than to take these littles and give them a home – no matter the length of time. While we wait we’ll continue to take classes, participate in support groups, and just be ready when we get the call.

Thank you all for your continued support and prayers! Cheers to a hopeful and busy 2018! xoxo

To A Hopeful Woman

To A Hopeful Woman This Christmas,

I’ve been where you’ve been. For many, many years I’ve had a Christmas list that has had only one thing: a baby. After 14 years, it still remains on my list. But, something has changed. I write to you on this Christmas morning because I hope to inspire in you strength to hold on, strength to love and strength to believe. The very things that has allowed me to get through this year without feeling great loss. Continue reading “To A Hopeful Woman”

The Waiting Season

The other day I received a phone call that showed as “No Caller ID.” I immediately answered it because I thought it could be the moment that someone tells me, “We have a kiddo for you.” I know I shouldn’t be excited a little is being pulled from their family or another foster home. But, let’s be real here, I’m excited to be able to love a little – even if just for a little bit.  Continue reading “The Waiting Season”

When God’s Timing Seems Like Forever

Two weeks ago I heard my therapist say the words, “Let’s get this approved.” Two weeks and the phone tag between therapist and state began to be an annoyance. Questions arose in my head. The first, of course, being, “When will we be approved?” And “God, when will this happen?” Isn’t that how things normally are though when we want something amazing to happen in our life and just have no patience for it? It’s always, “Hey God! Can You take care of this for me? But, like now instead of later when Your timing is perfect?” Now, don’t make me feel bad and saying you’ve never had a when, God when moment before. We’ve all been there.  Continue reading “When God’s Timing Seems Like Forever”

A Continued Journey

It’s the mercy of God that He doesn’t show us everything
that will unfold in the foster care and adoption journey
the moment we first say “yes” to it.
All the hard would be too unbearable
and all the good would be too unbelievable.

The struggle to complete the home study process and become licensed foster parents hasn’t been kept a secret. We said “yes” right before we rang in the 2017 New Year and we are still on the journey that should have only taken 160 days. It’s been hard to keep the faith and to believe that this is the journey that God has called us on.  Continue reading “A Continued Journey”

Letters to You

Little One,

A couple of weeks ago, I walked with my loves through the Amazon Bookstore at Washington Square. I looked at the poem books. I looked at the cookbooks. I looked at fiction books. Then I looked at the children’s books. It was there in that space I had to  reshare my vision of writing children’s books. But, it was there in that space I also envisioned your spot in our library. Where the books that we find for you will build as quickly as the books for me. I envisioned the hours we’d spend lounging around the library sharing in our favorite books. Continue reading “Letters to You”

Fighting the Noise

It’s already October. It has been 279 days working to become licensed foster parents.

It has been an uphill battle. I can’t lie to you and say life is peachy or that I’ve suddenly become an actual genius and fixed this merry-go-round of our process. The struggle is real. My faith is being tested and I keep telling myself God is in control. Sometimes I wonder if I’m only doing the motions. Other times I’m on my knees. Continue reading “Fighting the Noise”

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