Balancing Act

We have been parents to our little one for a month and I’ve realized something: you’re never ever ready for everything in parenting. I’m one of those people who likes to have order. Organization is who I am. I like having schedules. I like knowing what is expected of me and of my day. I like the black and white. For me black and white brings simplicity and less chaos. It suits me.

Well, this month has been just that: chaos. Continue reading “Balancing Act”

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Unexpectedness

Unexpectedness. An unforeseen, surprising and unexpected development. That is what parenthood appears to be. The only word that I can describe how this adventure has felt like in week two.

Last weekend wasn’t too bad. It was our second weekend as a little family and we spent it at Grandma’s. He was happy and manageable – even if we didn’t bring the infant car seat because, you know, we thought we were staying indoors. That was our note to self moment – just buckle in that bloody infant car seat and take out the huge, ginormous and heavy convertible car seat and make our life easier. Check. Continue reading “Unexpectedness”

Week One Down

We survived. The three of us. Learning about each other. Getting used to a new schedule. We survived.

A week of baby and I’m exhausted. I knew that motherhood was hard and tiring. But, I will never ever underestimate a mother or father who has said, “I was up with the little one all night because he wasn’t feeling well.” Or, “Little one is teething so we didn’t get much sleep.” I give props to the mamas and dads out there who have given so unselfishly that their kiddo would thrive. I hope I am doing the same for our little one. Continue reading “Week One Down”

The Call

Guys! It happened! It finally happened!

I would have thought when you get your first placement it would work just like it says in the books. But really, just like everything else through this journey, it was unexpected.

 

Within four hours from speaking with the placement desk my husband and I were strapping the little one into our car seat that has sat in my car for almost a year. And just like that we were foster parents. Continue reading “The Call”

The Questions To Ask

Since we are still swinging on the pendulum waiting for our first call I figure I do some research on when we get the first placement call. I don’t know if others really have a list of questions. Call me an over thinker. I mean, there isn’t much I can do but ruminate on what will happen on our first call.

Here is the list of things I thought about asking during the call and after I say yes and meet up with the child’s SW.


On the Call:

Basic Information:
What’s his name? (For the sake of saying “the child” or “his/her” I’m just saying his.)
How old is he?
What kind of personality does he have?
Does he love or hate anything in particular?
Does he have any allergies or special needs? If so, is their medication or services provided from DSHS?
Is there a religious preference? Are there any special needs we should consider because of his religion?

Background Information:
Is there a file available?
Why is he in foster care? Living situation?
How long has he been in foster care? If not first, how many moves has he had?
Any siblings? If so, where are they? Why aren’t they together? Is placing them together a priority in the future?

Permanency:
Is this short-term or long-term?
Has other family members been reached?

Our first meet up:

Basic Information About Child:
When is his birthday?
Is he up to date on his shots? If not, has an appointment been set?
Who is his pediatrician? Are we required to keep that pediatrician?

Visitation:
What is the visitation schedule?
If there is a visitation schedule, who from his bio family attends?
Where are the visits held?
Will I be transporting the child for visitation, or will a case worker?
If the child has siblings placed elsewhere, do they have visitation with their siblings?

During The Day:
Is he in daycare? If so, what daycare?
Are there any special services he is receiving in day care?
Will it be okay to take him out of daycare and transfer him to our daycare?

Permanency:
How is his parent’s and their case plan? Has one been set up?


I created this entire list because I wanted to be ready. Then I met these two great gals on one of my foster support groups and realized for my age group I may have an over abundance of questions. I guess it’s better safe than sorry though, right? I’ll be ready for sure come August when we open up our license to include a wider age group. Do y’all have any other questions that you’ve asked?


Our personal update: Little ones in our age group will come but I’ve been told there is a great need for a wider age group. My heart is honestly heavy about that. I wish we lived in a bigger home because there is nothing more I want than to take these littles and give them a home – no matter the length of time. While we wait we’ll continue to take classes, participate in support groups, and just be ready when we get the call.

Thank you all for your continued support and prayers! Cheers to a hopeful and busy 2018! xoxo

To A Hopeful Woman

To A Hopeful Woman This Christmas,

I’ve been where you’ve been. For many, many years I’ve had a Christmas list that has had only one thing: a baby. After 14 years, it still remains on my list. But, something has changed. I write to you on this Christmas morning because I hope to inspire in you strength to hold on, strength to love and strength to believe. The very things that has allowed me to get through this year without feeling great loss. Continue reading “To A Hopeful Woman”

The Waiting Season

The other day I received a phone call that showed as “No Caller ID.” I immediately answered it because I thought it could be the moment that someone tells me, “We have a kiddo for you.” I know I shouldn’t be excited a little is being pulled from their family or another foster home. But, let’s be real here, I’m excited to be able to love a little – even if just for a little bit.  Continue reading “The Waiting Season”

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